A few months ago, all of kids were home, with grandkids for our youngest daughter’s wedding . . . Andrea, Brandon, Bentley & Arrington . . . Alyssa and Jason . . . Amanda, Kenny, Sammy and Aria . . . and Alydia & Mitchell
Sitting around the dinner table is so different now. It’s large . . . it’s loud . . . it’s chaotic . . . it’s just good.
Without exception, we find ourselves talking about how the older girls feel the younger girls got away with more “stuff”. And, everyone thinks Alydia gets away with too much. Honestly, we love it.
But in the talking there is a lot of seeing.
Debi and I begin to see their hearts . . . how they feel about family, about life, about the future . . . we hear their joys and their sorrows . . . we see their fears and their concerns . . . we see their faith and hope and love and confidence and trust!
We begin to understand how much His love covered all of our mistakes as parents.
I treasure that kind of communication . . . that kind of openness . . . that kind of authenticity . . . that kind of tenderness . . . that kind of love.
Paul reminds us “Can anything separate us from the love of Christ? Can trouble, suffering, and hard times, or hunger and nakedness, or danger and death . . . in everything we have won more than a victory because of Christ who loves us. I am sure that nothing can separate us from God’s love–not life or death, not angels or spirits, not the present or the future, and not powers above or powers below. Nothing in all creation can separate us from God’s love for us in Christ Jesus our Lord!” Romans 8:35-39
No matter what . . . our Heavenly Father always looks at us and reminds us that nothing can change His love for us!
I am also reminded of Peter’s words . . . now remember, this was the disciple who denied his Lord three times after proclaiming his undying loyalty.
In I Peter 4:8, he writes, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
The Message puts it this way, “Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything.”
There are some children . . . both young and old . . . and some who are now adults . . . who live with the disappointment and hurt of knowing that they will never hear affirming words of love from a parent again.
The love never covered!
Their mistakes were too great . . . the pain too severe . . . the hurts too deep. Instead of hearing, “I love you” . . . “It’s okay” . . . “I’m here” . . . they heard nothing at all . . . except the silence of separation.
I want to be the kind of father to my family that God is to His family.
I want to love them as if my life depended on it.
As Paul said, “. . . nothing can separate us from the love of God “.
So today, I want my girls, their husbands, and my grandchildren to know . . .
“Andrea, Brandon, Bentley and Arrington, your covered in love!”
“Alyssa and Jason, your covered in love!”
“Amanda, Kenny, Sammy and Aria, your covered in love!”
“Alydia and Mitchell, your covered in love!”
“And, to my lovely Debi, you have covered me in love and I shall do the same!”
. . . and nothing shall separate you from it!